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May 9, 2022Liked by 3musesmerge

T-shirt: “I think I may need professional help. A chef, a butler, and a maid should do it.” 😁

>> “Motherhood enticed me to grow blossoms of empathy like sun-drenched tulip bulbs on a February windowsill. I often feel my child has taught me more than I’ve taught him.“ 💚💚💚

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I bought myself a birthday t-shirt last week. It reads Free Kisses (if you are a dog). 😂

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May 9, 2022Liked by 3musesmerge

I’m going to steal that one… 😁

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May 9, 2022Liked by 3musesmerge

When my kids were quite young I learned not to say "my kids would never do that." And they learned in a hurry that mom and dad would not put up with destructive behavior. When my dsughter was about 5 yrs old she watched the big kids using chalk on the sidewalk. She decided to color on the sidewalk with crayons. Because it was on base in Germany it was goverment property. I made her scrub it off. Her brother watched her scrubbing. When she was done I heard him getting a bucket of water. He was about 4 yrs old. He said he had been bad and he needed the bucket to scrub crsyon off. I had him show me what he needed the water for. He had scribbled all over the outdide of the building. I made him leave it so everybody could see how bad he had been. His dad scrubbed it off when he came home that night. They watched so many kids over the years get into serous trouble. They knew better then do something that would get us sent home and their dad sent back to the barricks. The MP's didn't tolerate misbehaving family members. So glad you don't need to make up the treatments. Hope and praying that there are no more obstacles in your way to May 19th. Stomp on that C.

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I also feel teaching respect for others and property was important.

In Meandering Muses there is a story about kids shaking salt and pepper onto a fast food booth tabletop. To some it might seem trivial, but for me it was an opportunity to explain wasteful behavior… and respect for the employees who would have to clean up any mess we left.

Thank you for your thoughtful contributions to 3mm Margaret! Love having you here!

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May 9, 2022Liked by 3musesmerge

My mother taught us girls that if you are shopping and change your mind about something you put it back on the shelf you took it from. Both of my kids and I worked at Walmart and we don't put stuff willy nilly all over. If we change our minds we put it back where we got it from. I never leave a cart in the parking lot unless I put it in a cart return. Most of the time I return it to the line up in the store. When I get canned goods off a shelf I pull the one behind forward for the next person. I help elderly people reach merchandise up high and down low. I have held babies so the moms can pay for their purchases. I have collected buggies off the parking lots as I am headed in to the store. Anything to make somebody's day go easier. I have pulled expired merchandise off the shelves and quietly taken it to an employee so then can check the rest on the shelf. Everybody could do a little something everyday to help someone else's day go better but too many have that "I'm more important than you" attitude. I love your books. I try to read at least 6-8 pages every night if Ms. Callie Lou lets me.

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Ms. Callie Lou? Tell us more about her?

Thank you for sharing all of the considerate actions you and your children gift the world and their fellow man.

When we were gone to the wedding last weekend our son came home to watch Henry. My mother-in-law called and invited him to dinner. He went.

I was so delighted to hear grandma comment on what a kind and helpful young man he’s grown into. She even said he offered to bring something!

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May 9, 2022Liked by 3musesmerge

Ms. Callie Lou is our 6 yr old calico cat that we found on the on ramp to the interstate down the road from us. She was about 5 or 6 weeks old. We caught her so she wouldn't get run over and we took her right to the vet. They said she was too little for shots but to bring her back in 2 weeks. We did and got told she needed a playmate and they had a kitten there who needed a home and would we take her. We agreed and that's how we got Marie B. Marie is a short hair gray tiger stripe. A few weeks before getting them we found a long hair siamese mix living under the hoid of our vehicle. After a week of her running away each time we went out I managed to catch herbut only because our dogs had caught her first. One had her by the throat and one had her by the belly. She tore me up but I managed to get her away from them. We took her right down to the vet to see if she had a chip. They told me to get to urgent care and they would hold the cat for the 10 days the law says they have too. I spent 4 hours in urgent care while they cleaned, disinfected and bandaged my arms all up. Nobody in the neighborhoid would claim her and I was not going to dump her back outside. We call her Sophie. She has been terrified of the dogs and she has stayed hidden in my sewing room only coming out at night for the last 6 years. She is probably about 9 yrs old now. Our last dog crossed the Rainbow Bridge last year. She now comes out of hiding to join us in the living room. Callie chases her around the house. Marie is leery of her and won't get near her. But we survive. None of them get in my daughters lap. Marie climbs all over her when we go to bed. Callie sleeps with me and Sophie dances around the living room because there is nobody around to stop her once the lights go out. It is our zoo and we love it.

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"It is our zoo and we love it."

What a joyful sentence. Thanks for telling us about your zoo Margaret!

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Hope your Mothers Day was wonderful. I often think the same. My children have taught me to be bold, fearless and more loving then I ever thought I could be.

So happy about the not having to make up any of those past infusions.

Cure!

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Trail walk, mother-in-law visit, take out pizza for dinner — a beautiful day! Hoping yours was wonderful, too!

Oops! I was overly optimistic with my counting yesterday… I have 3 more infusions in this round of chemo. Fingers crossed for 5/26 completion.

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great news, Gail!

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♥️ Thanks Marijke!

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May 9, 2022Liked by 3musesmerge

I hope your Mothers Day was beautiful, Gail, and I'm delighted for you to not have to make up the missed infusions. Glad for you, too, with the news of your approval for the bone marrow booster. The end of phase one is so clearly in sight...yahoo!! Holding warm thoughts and hugs for the day when all of this is behind you, all in good time.🌱🙌💓

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Hi Mary Ellen! So great to see you here in 3mm comments. I did have a beautiful Mother's Day. I hope the same for you.

The 12 weekly chemo infusions seemed like the biggest mountain to climb when I was introduced to my treatment plan. Looks like I'm going to get through with only 9 and the summit is in sight! 🎉

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That's great to hear! Guess what I found out? My youngest niece is four months pregnant. I'm going to be a great aunt.

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Congratulations Pennie! Do you live close enough to be able to watch your niece's belly grow? And after the birth, to hold and rock the baby?

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I'm about 3 1/2 hours away so yes. I'm not a real hands on kind of woman when it comes to children even though I love my niece's to piece's.

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To be honest, I like babies best from a short distance. 😊 Unless they have fur! Then I can’t keep my hands off of them.

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Same here.

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♥️

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That’s some great news! I liked your account of the church service/mass when you were sad at not being a mom yet. I was terrified of becoming a father as I believed that what I brought away from my family was mostly what not to do to raise a healthy kid. My guess is that moms, and to a lesser degree dads, are pre wired to afford care to their newborns. My actual “dad-ing” was a good experience.

I’m with Nia on the proportioning of mouths. Consider all the breadths of grins you’ve seen, the variation in lip sizes, open mouthed and nearly closed mouth laughs. There are a lot of paintist options!

And right now, with the skinny on your present infusion/marrow treatments, I could almost hear a broad smile in your wording. 😁 Good for you! CURE!

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