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Isn’t it beautiful just to be without having to buy something? I used to Amazon in my sleep. I would wake up a day or two later go to work and come back to many boxes.

I have started to purge but I know it going to take me all end of spring and probably all summer to do it. So you know what? That’s fine, because I didn’t accumulate all this stuff in one day.

Isn’t it freeing just to be?

Xoxo

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I’ve recently picked up Simple Pleasures by Sarah Ban Breathnach. It’s been on my shelf for many years. I read it cover to cover back then… now I’m just opening to random meditations. Sarah was Marie Kondo before Marie was born. 😂

Yes… freeing just to be!

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May 21, 2022Liked by 3musesmerge

T-shirt: “Sorry I’m late. I got here as soon as I wanted to.” 😁

We have made solemn vows to mindfully de-clutter. I still insisted on buying stuff for Deb on our vacation. She never asks for anything, and she has learned to preface comments on stuff with, “I don’t need this, but…” So when she does an intake of breath and says, “Oh my…” when spotting a soapstone, bone, and fur art piece of a native Madonna and child, I know I won’t have to twist her arm. (And only $30 for express shipping to PA!)

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I totally “get” that and think it’s healthy to treat ourselves… especially when there’s that intake of breath. 😊

The kind of shopping I would have done today was not that kind. 😂 Glad I hung out in the parking lot.

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May 21, 2022Liked by 3musesmerge

Do you print the t-shirts? 🙃

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May 21, 2022Liked by 3musesmerge

LOL! Nope, Gary, I do a recurring theme on Medium where my wife Deb and I point out things we find in the catalogs people send us. (We've actually ordered very little, and none of it the t-shirts, signs, stickers, et al that I've mentioned in 3mm remarks.) Good source of quick chuckles, and I figured Typist could use a few.

https://medium.com/the-junction/conversation-with-my-wife-179-8bbd48cf1081

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May 21, 2022Liked by 3musesmerge

I well remember your Medium posts from my paying member days. Simply put, I’m not a writer. I sometime use “Literary voyeur” to identify my interest in the writings of others. Perplexingly, after terminating my Medium membership over two years ago, the daily emails keep coming with folks like you I once followed. And my follower count keeps growing! I can only think that when I pass, following me could become even more hazardous!

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Happy Saturday! Wishing you all the best for your appointment today.

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Thanks Matthew! Only ten minutes now and should be a ten minute in/out visit.

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I take my Nook when we have appointments. I have a ton of books downloaded on it as well as a few word games we can play together while waiting. As for shopping we rarely clothes shop and never jewelry shop. Our impulse shopping is usually for board games or jigsaw puzzles. Clothes shopping is for when something is so worn out it can't be mended anymore. My dad would always put that gray duct tape on his clothes which always embarassed my mom. She'd throw his jeans out and he'd dig them out of the trash and wear them again. He had tape on tape on tape. He said that was good enough for going to town grocery shopping. My husband used to staple his clothes together. I'd tear my hands up on staples doing laundry. When I'd complain he always said he forgot to tell me. I'm sure my son uses the tape on his clothes. He has been known to use duct tape on cuts on his hands and arms when he was at work and didn't want to stop and get a band aid.

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Duct tape mends everything! 😂

I do some mending with needle and thread in occasion — buttons and seams mostly.

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May 21, 2022Liked by 3musesmerge

Coming from a red-green color deficient fan, use grains of salt prn. The facade of the CANCER CENTER has both vertical and horizontal lines that appear to me as a rusty, red color. (Cue laughter 🤣) If that is sorta close to the actual color, I’m thinking something resembling even the hint of “blood” may not have been the best choice. Of course the business of building up meaty blood is part of treatment. 🤷🏽

I like today’s discussion of retail therapy and the role it does and does not serve. I’m reminded of knowing people who “needed” constant music (today video) in every room of their homes! Never turned off. The very opposite of the advice, “Don’t just do something! Sit there.” The torture of sitting quietly. Please tell Tal it is survivable...

As always, Gail, I’m comforted by your calm approach to not just your care for C. Your calmness has the knack of wading through the waters of life’s difficulties. Seeking understanding and, where possible, acceptance of the “is.” Crafting connection through your living out loud! From a random crossing of paths years ago on Medium to today, I continue to learn from all you share. CURE!

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You’re right about the rusty red embellishments on the building!

Tal does love a new top, dress, or pair of shoes. It’s a little early in the season to be bored with what we already have. 😊

Thank you for your appreciation. There was some discussion between me and the trio about the “why” behind our daily live letters. Simply put — doing so feels energizing and helps me to make sense of life. It fosters connection with others. 😁 I’m glad to know you are finding value, too.

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I for one am grateful for this ✍🏼 🆚 🛍!

😊🙏🏼😊

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😊🙏🏻😊

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My retail therapy typically takes place at REI during their annual anniversary sale with member discounts. 🏕 I have been a bit impulsive with some art supply shopping too 🛍 but I’m ok with that! ✍🏼🎨✍🏼

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Awareness!

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