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When our daughter lost her hair my husband immediately shaved his head. He kept it shaved until her treatments were over. It's been about 25 years and her hair has never grown back where her tumor was. She just keeps the rest of her hair long and she pulls it all back into a ponytail.

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I'll bet your daughter is beautiful Margaret!

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What a supportive dad. ❤️

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God Bless! And what a great Dad!

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He was the best. We lost him 10 years ago to small cell lung cancer.

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I'm so sorry, Margaret. You've had many bumps in life.

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I am so very sorry for your loss.

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Intricately woven into this post is the ever evasive, six word story… A thing of myth and legend! “For sale: baby shoes, never worn.”

Was it written? Is it truth or legend? Was there really a bet? Hemingway? Sequels? Humor?

Links below for Typist AND Paintist! 😉

Who knows, there may be fodder for “The Girls” too… 🤔

https://www.newyorker.com/humor/daily-shouts/ernest-hemingways-six-word-sequels

https://www.openculture.com/2015/03/the-urban-legend-of-ernest-hemingways-six-word-story.html

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The sequels post is a riot! And the second article reminds us that all artists steal. 😉

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Bobby- when I read that I was thinking I heard that before! I am so glad you shared Hemingways story, thank you!

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Interesting links, Bobby. I heard of the six-word project on NPR a few years back. (I can't find the link right now.) It's a great exercise. At the time, I wrote one: Sought perfection. Achieved authenticity. Feels better.

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Love it! 🙌🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼🙌🏼

“Sought perfection. Achieved authenticity. Feels better.” ~Karen DeBonis

My current one is:

“Hold The Vision, Trust The Process!”

🙏🏼🕊🙏🏼

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I like yours, too--it's prophetic for me! I'm a writer, and often other writers would remind me to trust the process as I tried to find a publisher for my book. I wasn't quite sure what "the process" was, but I kept plugging away, doing all the "right things," and lo and behold, my book will be now be released next spring. I held the vision and trusted the process!

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Karen, Congratulations! How awesome!

I will probably continue to self-publish until I’m “DISCOVERED.” And since I am a legend only in my own mind, it will probably be awhile before I have anything ready for a traditional publisher. 😂🤣😂

With that said, if the powers that be want me mainstream, I will be listening for queues and following my own advice. 😉

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Thanks Bobby! Fortunately, there are many paths to publication. When you come to a fork, take it--it may lead you mainstream!

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Keep writing!!! It’s such an enjoyment for all of us to read.

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Bobby shared a Charles Bukowski sentiment with me recently.

https://youtu.be/ZN1Tw8XM1LY

The writing comes bursting out of me in spite everything!

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Hint: the mergers, if not outright gaps, in our memories can become more pronounced with the passing of time! 🤔 Yours of course will resemble rainbows. So very glad Nia persisted, slobber and all. The mysterious bag was a fun find I bet! Second soprano? If you’ve packed all the important memories into one bag, of any size, you are the Thoreau of non-hoarders! Mike seems the embodiment of joy with a touch of mischief!

CURE!

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I rarely look in the bin, but when I do... there is always something to make me grin. Today I gave a passing glance at the envelope containing my ACT scores for college admittance. Why on earth am I saving that???

And yes... just the one bin. Travel light, be the light, share the light? Tea bag wisdom!

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From which I benefit!

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From which we all benefit!

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Awww! Thanks. It truly is my greatest pleasure to write and a gift to have you all here with me!

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BUTTON: “I support everyone’s right to be an idiot. I may need it myself some day.” 😁

I suppose I could shave my head. But no one would notice. 🫤 (See the thumbnail photo of my Substack profile. I'm the one with the shiny head on the right.)

Unless I shaved the parts below my nose (I have the same amount of hair as I did at age 20, it's just migrated from the top of my head to the bottom) but Deb would object.

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No doubt we’ve all had more than one idiot moment!

Mike surprised me via Instagram with his freshly shorn head. He did it himself and says he “messed up” on one side, but I couldn’t tell. 😂

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What a good friend Mike is.

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I'm impressed that you knew right where to look!

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