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Dec 10, 2022Liked by 3musesmerge

T-shirt: “One day you will meet someone who loves you exactly the way you are! (then you will gradually discover that they are crazy in other ways as well) 😁

But one person's crazy is another person's endearingly eccentric. 😉

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Dec 10, 2022Liked by 3musesmerge

Does Tal ever get under anyone else’s skin? She reminds me of those multi-sport athletes that can perform all sorts of challenging maneuvers with ease! Smarty pants!

I can offer those observations as one who was too similar in my elementary through middle school years. I wanted to think I excelled to create a diversion from how I really felt. I corrected my teachers! (After all, I was right!) I took any challenge or dare that showed itself.

Then there was the first chair B-flat clarinet incident. I’d played since second grade (with little instruction from the traveling music teacher, and less practice). I had joined the school marching band before starting middle school, and learned to keep the reed from freezing solid during Veteran’s Day parades in sub-freezing weather. 🥶

So when i joined the concert band, the more melodic first chair sheet music “sounded right.” I also didn’t know the sense of second and third chair parts. They sounded unmelodic! Clunky. The band leader indicated that third chair was the available seat, so there I started. I also quickly realized the first chair clarinetists were great! Bruised ego... but I persisted. I made 2nd chair by 9th grade but never 1st.

My emphasis wasn’t on mastering the instrument. Rather, assuaging my sense of low self-esteem with “position.” First has to be superior to third! The clunky third chair parts were a dead give away!

That’s my long version, incomplete, of what typist wrote so efficiently! I only saw weakness and failed to see opportunity. I would not have allowed a “Cal” to share thoughts on how to view weakness and respond to opportunity. Knowing myself in those days was more like living “The Daily Riddle,” A Tal classmate or friend wouldn’t have made sense telling me to focus more on knowing myself.

The Pennsylvania-Dutch saying comes to mind, “We grow too soon old and too late smart.” The growing old part I have a handle on. The smart part might take a while longer. 😬

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“There can be no strength without weakness. Weakness by another name is opportunity… opportunity to learn and grow.”

~Typist, a.k.a, ~Gail Boenning

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https://www.themuse.com/advice/4-ways-to-answer-whats-your-biggest-weakness-that-actually-sound-believable

I figured an answer from another “Muse” might be interesting to Typist... 😉

And who is this “NEW” Paintist 🎨✍🏼🎨 contributing to the Love Letters?

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Dec 10, 2022Liked by 3musesmerge

I'm struck with this thought--that sometimes our weakness IS our strength. If I am weak, it allows you to be the strong one and to feel good about it. If I don't have a skill, you have the opportunity to help me--I let you be the one to shine. In other words, in my weakness, I am the giver, and that is strength. Does that even make any sense?

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"Knowing yourself is important," says someone who struggles with mental illnesses and has a degree in psychology. By learning about who you are as a person and understanding what could be improved is a huge step to a successful future. Love the owl Gail.

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