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I see โ€œtextureโ€ too! ๐Ÿ˜Šโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ˜Ž

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Yes! The little things can make a profound shift. Iโ€™m observing in the work of others that shading plays a huge partโ€ฆ I will investigate further. ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

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You are getting really good at your drawing.

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Thanks Pennie! Nobody is more surprised than me.๐Ÿ˜‚

I feel inspired by your newsletter here on Substack. I take much joy in watching others experiment with their creativity!

https://penniersn.substack.com/p/the-beast-at-flag-beach?r=17kzw6&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web

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Thank you. I'm very nervous though when I write because I grew up not being very good with grammar and such.

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Content is what matters to me... although grammar and appearance will make your published work more appealing.

When I started writing six years ago, I had no idea how to punctuate dialogue. I couldn't have told you the difference between first, second, and third person. Oxford comma? What's that?

I was not a good student of the English language in school.

I think if you are passionate about telling stories, the grammar will fall into place as you go along and do the work... at least that's been my experience. I still make all kinds of mistakes I suspect, but I'm not going to let that stop me.

I hope the same for you!

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Feb 3, 2022Liked by 3musesmerge

Way to go Cal! While you read body language, I read hat language. I figured broadening Texโ€™s hat brim was the change. Then Cal followed with her comment on Tex not slouching in to protect his heart!

A lifetime ago when I was studying to become a clinical psychologist, I was co-therapist with an older woman who counseled couples (in group sessions lasting 10 weeks) deciding whether to divorce or try anew. After a session one evening, Jackie asked if I noticed the one husband with arms tightly folded across his chest and face thrust forward? Of course I said โ€œNo.โ€ She added, โ€œThatโ€™s what I call the DeFuniak Springs Syndrome. Arms guarding the heart but the head and face thrust forward in an โ€œI dare youโ€ gesture.โ€

I think Jackie was from that area in the Florida panhandle, and Iโ€™m now married to a woman who grew up in DeFuniak Springs. Today I can say that syndrome is not endemic to DeFuniak Springs. I believe thereโ€™s no shortage of fear in lots of menโ€™s being. Economic worries, threats to their identities as breadwinners as women play ever greater roles in our country, and changing definitions of what being a man (binary language) entails.

Imagine: arms wide open and face alight with a loving smile? That could create swifter passage of Thought Clouds to hasten the Sunโ€™s arrival? Seems Tex is headed in a good direction.

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Oh yes! The hat, too!๐Ÿ˜ƒ

As one of our readers shares with his Quest participants oftenโ€ฆ I had been lying to myself for so many years. I really can draw!

Your comment immediately brought to mind Frederik Backmanโ€™s novel โ€” A Man Called Ove. It is only after Oveโ€™s wife dies that he is coaxed into opening his heart by a determined young neighbor.

Backman approaches all of his characters with incredible empathy and understanding. There were many reasons Ove lived much of his life as a grumpy manโ€ฆ his environment held certain expectations of him. It wasnโ€™t until a key that fit his lock appeared with persistence to open him that everything shifted. He couldnโ€™t hide behind his wife anymore.

Tex and Oveโ€ฆ catching the wind!

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