Colors bled from Typist’s brushes, pouring personality into the muses she adores.
“We look better with her second attempt.. don’t you think?” Cal asked Nia.
“Yes… more nuance. And Paintist will continue to get better with practice.” Thalia executed a near flawless pirouette. Her scalloped skirt danced along as her partner in beauty.
Nia nodded. “Yes, better.”
“Just like Typist keeps getting better at building relationships. Let’s tell the readers about an aha! she had this week?” said Cal.
“I think I know where you’re going… Is it about the conversation we had with our friend who sees value in improving city designs? So that cities become more walkable and people become more connected?” Thalia asked.
“Mhmmm… Typist saw a big YES, AND in his ideas because of her personal experiences in her own neighborhood,” Cal answered.
“Twenty odd years ago, Typist had a casual relationship with almost every family in her neighborhood… all those days out pushing the stroller with the fourleg helping. And then,”
Tal jumped in while Nia took a breath. “The neighborhood started to turn over. The baby grew into an independent boy. Empty nesters left and new families moved in. The fourleg du juor had leash aggression that drove the pair to walk at the marsh instead of in the hood. Typist lost connection with just about everyone… only offering the polite wave from truck’s windows.”
“Until… Henrietta arrived! Back out strolling the asphalt once or twice per day has given Typist an opportunity to build and rekindle relationships. In some instances, she’s had to push herself to go extra steps… like last week, when the new neighbor’s dog was exploring well outside of its yard. Typist tromped across the wet grass to ring the bell, introduce herself, and let the neighbor know their dog was on the lamb.” Cal took a deep breath.
“It’s lam, not lamb… glad I looked it up,” Nia grinned. “Can you imagine a dog riding on a lamb? I always love running into the group of neighbor guys who walk their dogs at 6am before work. Henny sometimes tries to ride on the back of golden retriever Addie!”
“So…” said Tal, “… neighborhood design might make a difference, but it seems all real change starts inside, not out.”
A word from Typist:
One of my biggest personal discoveries over the last ten years is that we live our lives from the inside out. I used to believe life happened to me. In some ways that is true… reality is reality. What I have come to embrace is my agency in finding joy, connection, and growth in whatever comes my way.
Henny can be a real pain in the patootie sometimes, but as I focus on the joy and playfulness of her antics, I am empowered to feel happy instead of annoyed.
I saw Clare perform last July in Nashville. She left a big impression on me and when I got home I followed her social media and sent her a few notes... and she replied! Today she released a new single called I Love You which is about loving yourself, which opens the door to love others. It's a beautiful song... https://open.spotify.com/track/5nQpZBbk0zWMA0WI2o134B?si=95e49c3fd2e845c4
I love the girls' makeovers! And, we may not be "neighbors," but I'm so glad we connected, Gail!
Yes! Me too Karen. This morning I am thinking about how much I had to love the person within, so that I could become more deeply engaged with the world outside.
You're so wise, Gail. A modern philosopher, like Fred Rogers.
BUTTON: “I arise in the morning torn between a desire to improve the world and a desire to enjoy the world. This makes it hard to plan the day.” 😁
I love your gratitude video and shared it on FB.
Oh! Thanks for sharing Jack! My friend Chris Palmore has made many of these gratitude videos with a wide range of readers. What a cool project!
What an inspirational piece for a Friday! Or a Tuesday or a Sunday! Initiating efforts for connection isn’t my natural inclination. A couple, Kate and Tom, are long term acquaintances of ours. I found myself wondering about them. Ureka! Why not toss a text their way?!
They love live performances, especially at Florida State University venues. And I knew of one tomorrow morning that Beth and I plan to attend. So I texted them, asking if they perhaps planned on attending?
Guess what?! We’re attending together with adjoining seats in a wonderful auditorium to hear music composed by George Gershwin and Duke Ellington. Performed by a respected jazz pianist and the Tallahassee Symphony Orchestra.
While fundamentally a neighborhood of four, immersed in an audience of lovers of similar music, we might be in a far larger neighborhood than first imagined.
Long ago, 1973, when I first met Kate and Tom, we shared an array of mutual friends. Someone was always calling (on a landline phone😱) with news of a gathering of one kind or another. That felt like an organic process. Alive.
Much has changed and initiating a gathering of any size feels forced. But what is all that different? Pick up the phone (cracker-jack smart phones that afford all kinds of “calls”) and reach out! It’s not like planning a high school reunion!
So, yes, Gail. On agency. On community planning. A coastal town in Florida and west of us, Seaside, is the first intentional community I knew of. The planner/architect pushed the homes close to the sidewalks and streets, added broad front porches with room for chairs, and designed alleys behind the homes to keep parked cars from becoming visual barriers. Did I say the homes were painted with beautiful pastels with carefully matched accent walls and trim? The point? To encourage owners to use their front porches so they could become acquainted with their neighbors. Extend an invitation to “come sit a spell.” Agency!
Now to develop similar agency in myself. As always, you set a good example!
Thanks, Gail
Oh! I hope you enjoy the concert and the company.
I think you also mentioned once a community where retirement living was located near a childcare center? An opportunity for exuberance to mingle with wisdom?
Won’t you be my neighbor?
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